Present Day

by notsoon4gotten

An ordinary married woman with children finds herself in a glorious sex affair, again.  After many faithful years, she stepped out on the ledge and jumped into the world of affairs.  It would seem that while this world is frowned upon in society, it just may be more ordinary than we wish to recognize; just google affairs and look for yourself.

I am the woman next door, the woman seated next to you in church on Sunday, the woman volunteering at her kids school, the woman in line at the grocery store, the woman filling her car up at the gas station, the ordinary woman with the wedding ring on her finger and a carseat in the back seat. 

Family comes first, always.  The affair is secondary.   A successful affair requires this understanding from both people involved.  If, at anytime, one of the persons involved wants more than the other can give; it’s doomed for failure, heartache and possibly disastrous results.

Presently, I’ve been married 18 years and have been having extra-marital affairs for the last 5 years.  I didn’t set out to have many affairs.  I thought I could meet one man and have a long-term affair.   I didn’t have a youth filled with relationship after relationship.  I married young and inexperienced with men.  Now, I embrace my freedom to explore sex.  I’ve let go of the societal norms of faithfulness. 

Neither myself nor the man in this extra-marital affair have any plans of leaving their families for each other.  To be very clear, this is an affair of passion and desire, not “love” and “happily ever afters”.  This isn’t about finding a new husband or a new daddy; it’s about fulfilling desires, connecting with someone, a deep friendship, things that often get lost in a marriage where day to day life has taken over.  Not every human being has the ability to engage in this sort of relationship.  It goes against our societal teachings, our societal up bringing, our culture deeply rooted in Christian traditions and values.

This blog is my creation, my outlet, the place where I will reflect upon the last five years and present happenings.